“Her husband Elkanah would say to her, “Hannah, why are you weeping?” Why don’t you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don’t I mean more to you than 10 sons?”
1 Samuel 1:8
Need I even say… there is NOTHING new under the sun!
Here we have a classic example of one flawed human being trying to be a “savior” to another flawed human being. Not a good “game plan”.
We see in a previous blog, Hannah is barren. She prays, trusts, and believes for years that God will give her a child. However, as each year passes by, discouragement starts to settle into her soul. Thankfully, so does an all-encompassing desperation for God to act. Hannah’s expectation that God is sovereign and will provide is KEY in her ability to never lose faith in a seemingly hopeless situation.
Unfortunately, Hannah’s greatest desire is not one Elkanah can give her. He makes an innocent and unfortunate comment trying to convince her she can be “completely content” in him. What more could she possibly want? I don’t know about you, but when I read this verse, I want to laugh and cry for him. Poor Elkanah. We “women folk” are so wonderfully and painfully complex. He wants to fix a broken heart and a deep desire with a band aide. Unfortunately, they just don’t make them large enough. Elkanah didn’t understand that only Jesus Christ, the TRUE savior of the world, can completely saturate and wholly satisfy another human soul.
Honestly, I can completely relate with Elkanah. Just how many times have I tried to be someone’s savior or expected someone else to be mine? No human being was ever designed or meant to carry a burden this heavy. Can we even imagine how much HEALTHIER our relationships would be if we didn’t have expectations that were impossible for any human to achieve?
This past week at bible study, my precious friend, Julie, came and shared her struggle with infertility. She explained how difficult it is to keep trusting God when year upon year goes by with no answer… no pregnancy… no baby, just like Hannah. Julie had to make a decision to believe God knew what was best for her family. She had to come to the conclusion that “it is well with my soul” even if she NEVER had a baby. She knew this void… this vacuum could ONLY be filled by the true lover of her soul, Jesus Christ.
For Julie… it was a deep yearning for a child, but this can apply to any desire in our lives. How about you? Is there a void in your life that you are trying to fill with relationships that will never be healthy? Do you have relationships that are unhealthy because of a void you have in yourself that needs to be filled by God alone? Are you trying to play the “Savior” role in someone’s life? Time to stop going in circles, time to stop the crazy cycle, time to take inventory, my friends!
“My only hope is in you.”–Psalm 39:7